Being fat doesn’t mean I can’t look fabulous was something I told myself after realizing the fact that my Chubby features still make me look “ideally beautiful”. The idea of being beautified wearing brands, from our so called elite Pakistani society is purely fake and just the snobbish part of these brainless creams of the crop. When we especially talk about clothing brands and big brands, the question that pops up my mind is “What’s in these branded stores are made for big beauties?” Marketing outfits on skinny girls is a regular routine and the product on stores for these prestigious brands are for the similar physique as advertised on.
If we look at the prevailing society, we will find and increasing rate of “Fat Women” but let me get it her that “Fat is not Ugly”. As the song by Macy Gray, “There is beauty in the world. Always beauty in the world. So much beauty in the world.” We (considering myself as an essential part of this society) are part of that “Beauty”. We come in all shapes and sizes. And yes we are beautiful. The point we can be so accepting that beauty come in all shapes and sizes as well as in the natural world, in animals, plants, trees and shrubs. But oh, how difficult it is for us to accept that our bodies – women bodies comes in all shapes and sizes and are beautiful.
I know this is so hard. I know this is such a challenge in such a society where being “FAT” is a brutal crime. But we can stop comparing ourselves to other women. Can we stop fantasizing that their lives are better, happier than ours because their thighs are thinner or abs are flatter? Let’s put a focus where they belong for each one of us – on creating a life worth living, and in that life we are strong, healthy and creative and wonderful women. We take as good care of ourselves as we do to others in our live and because of that we are beautiful.
Now coming to our Pakistani extreme price labeled brands one tagline that I keep hearing almost all the time is “Sorry Madam your size is not available” so in other words I would rather say that these so called high profiled brands think that bulk is not beautiful. So again the question arises “Why should I purchase your brand as in your store has nothing in store for me”.
Going through one of the blogs I read about a 35 year old big beauty who is an associate director and editor of an increasingly popular online movement that celebrates fashion for larger women – without a tent dressing or body camouflaging cardigan in sight. The author with blog names like “Fat Girls like nice clothes too”, “Manolo for big girls”, “Curves to Kill”, and “Thicker than your average girls”, seek to send and empowering message to their plus-sized sisters.
“We’re here, We’re Fat, We look just Fabulous – and you too can”
“FAT” is a loaded word, often wielded as a weapon but I hope to lessen its power to wound. Learning to use the word ‘fat’ as a basic description, stripping it of its negative baggage, was a huge part of my self acceptance process. Some women never get comfortable with it and I understand that for some, its been used as a weapon for long anything positive to be salvaged. But I love the word fat precisely because my candid and positive use of if often shocks people … it means everyone who hears the word “Fat” from me is having to take a moment to think about what I mean by it, and to resisit the knee-jerk assumption, that I must mean something bad. With my writing I just want to body a positive message for women I feel are not represented as beautiful and desirable in mainstream media. Growing up I dint have may famous examples of positive fat ladies representation. I mean there was “Roseanne” I loved her not because she was beautiful but I loved her because she was smart, tough and didn’t take a crap from anyone.
Famous designers Angela Zampell and Kane & Zee” notice the inequity in the market place to expand their popular clothing line to as stylish women from XXS – XXXL
I think the key is not to forget that larger girls still have a shape and it isn’t square. When designers like Zampell, Kane and Dee can work tremendously in helping other women realize their beauty potential, but it has not been without risk. It is, after all, the internet, and with that the inevitable rain of anonymous hostility from people offended than a larger woman would dare to find herself attractive. The people who get angriest about fat girls looking good and feeling hot are the people who are the most strongly invested in the idea that a person has to be skinny in order to be healthy, happy and loved.
At the end of the day, it’s just your outer shell – there’s a whole personality underneath that’s just waiting to shine: And even if you don’t realize how beautiful you are, someone else out there who thinks you are the most beautiful person in the world. Even if it’s a stranger looking at you through a screen.